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How to silence your inner critic

To go straight to the steps for silencing your inner critic skip to 3.05 minutes on the video and 3.35 minutes on the podcast.

Do you ever feel like you’re your own worst critic? You want to give new ideas a go, you want to try something new, but that little voice inside your head keeps stopping you, keeps making you question yourself and your abilities and makes you hesitate. This has happened to me a lot, in fact here’s a little secret for you… it took me 3 years, 3 different names and 3 different websites before I actually started the Female Entrepreneur Association! My inner enemy kept stopping me and then in 2011 I found a way to stop it. In the video above I share what happened to me and how I managed to stop it from happening. The 3 things I share in the video have helped me so much – even though I still have an inner critic (I don’t think we can ever really get rid of it!), I’ve figured out how to make sure it doesn’t stop me! I hope these steps help you as much as they’ve helped me!

One of the things I share at the end of the video is something that Dan Millman from Body Mind Mastery said. Here it is…

“If babies held the same tendency toward self-criticism as adults, they might never learn to walk or talk. Can you imagine infants stomping, “Aarggh! Screwed up again!” Fortunately, babies are free of self-criticism. They just keep practicing.” He goes on to say, “So be gentle with yourself; show yourself the same kindness and patience you might show a young child–the child you once were. If you won’t be your own friend, who will be? If, when playing an opponent, you are also opposing yourself, you will be outnumbered… You probably would find it cruel and unnecessary to say to someone, “You are really stupid; you keep making the same mistakes; you should give up; you’ll never be any good!” Yet we think it’s okay to say the same things to ourselves.”

I think he makes such a good point! I hope this inspires you to be kind to yourself and be your best friend, not your worst enemy.

Carrie x

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